Saturday, April 6, 2013

When is Enough, Enough?

I am wondering at what point we go from being helpful to actually becoming part of the problem.

The activity is rescuing, aiding, and supporting.  The subject can be a child, friend, partner or parent.

When is it time to stop giving money to our kids so they become independent and become the adults we want them to be?  When is it time to tell a friend to drop the loser, as opposed to ‘there-there-ing’ them until you are blue in the face and nothing has changed?

I believe most people want to be good friends.  I also believe most people want to be caring and understanding.  And yet, are we really doing what is right for the other person?

Is it really in their best interest to listen day-after-day, week-after-week, etc. to the same thing while they never make any real changes? 

I don’t have the answers.  We are all so different with different needs and different ways of handling life’s problems.

Having said this, I do believe there does come a time when enough is truly enough.  Hopefully it will be accompanied with warmth and love and not judgment and harshness.