I play Words With Friends with someone whom I used to work with. Many years ago she moved to the East Coast. I got a message from her this morning that she locked herself out of the house.
While I was suggesting she call a locksmith and several other concrete ideas, she had a different take on it. The weather is nice. She is outside. There’s no reason to panic, and she planned on waiting for her neighbor who comes and goes to give her the extra key she made for him.
Although it isn’t the worst of circumstances, someone else might have become unglued thinking of all the negative things this could cause. Instead, my friend accepted that it would be awhile and is using the time the best she can.
I worked for someone who was always saying, “Affect what you can and don’t obsess about the things you can’t change.” While this isn’t always easy, it is good advice. It doesn’t mean that you sit back and do nothing; it just means that the negative, angry energy is a waste. It doesn’t change anything, and in most cases will impact you and not the situation.
When you accept that things don’t always go smoothly, do the best you can to go with the flow. This way you don’t deplete yourself when you are faced with larger, more pressing challenges.