Friday, September 13, 2013


They say, “You can pick your friends, but not your family.”  Although this seems to make sense, in reality I know many people who have life-long friends who they consider family.  Whether a person becomes an ‘honorary’ aunt’, or  ‘a mother figure’, or one considers their best friend’s Grandma theirs too, the people who are there for you, support you, and who guide you, in my opinion are family.

Over the decades we went from a family consisting of parents and children, to using terms like ‘blended family’ or ‘extended family’ coming from Yours, Mine and Ours.

Getting the privilege of living through a couple of generations now, it is easy for me to see that family is much broader than I ever thought.  Whether it is your community, your place of worship, or the people in programs that help you to conquer your challenges, family is a mind-set.

Perhaps we can’t pick the family we are born into.  We obviously can’t decide whom we share genetics and blood with.  But, what we can do is surround ourselves with people who have our back.  We can choose whom we celebrate holidays with.  And, we can choose whom we give our love and heart to.

When you think about it, the person we marry or create a life with wasn’t family before that time. 

Something to think about?