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Hi, I’m Roni Kugler and I’d like to welcome you to my Website. In the past two years I have written hundreds of blogs and many motivational videos dealing with everything we humans have to go through. Hundreds of thousands of readers are finding my words to be extremely helpful to them as they move through their lives. I hope you feel the same way. I look forward to seeing your comments and your questions. And please don’t forget to visit my YouTube Channel and subscribe to there and visit my Facebook Page to follow the conversation at https://www.facebook.com/pages/Roni-Kugler/299618560165450. Here you will find a form, on the left side of the page, where you can fill in your name and email address so that we can stay connected. Thank you.

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Fuel

If someone were to ask you whether you tend to fan the flames or calm the fire, what would you say? I am referring to arguments, discussions, or a difference of opinion.

 

Some people are great at defusing potential fights. Others are great at taking something relatively small and helping or causing it to become WWIII.

When you think about your interpersonal relationships, would the people in your life say, “YOU stir things up”? Or would they say, “YOU help calm the situation”?

Your tone of voice. Your physical stance. Your attitude says something about you. Do you talk behind a person’s back? Do you create an atmosphere of hostility? Or are you the one who tries to be a calming presence to those around you?

How well do you know yourself? How would you like others to see you?

I have recently been an unwilling participant in a situation that went from bad to worse. When I reflect on the scenario, I can now see how it was handled, but more importantly, how it could have been handled.

We can all do a better job of taking responsibility for our part when it comes to the work environment, our social encounters, and our personal relationships.

For me, I would like to be viewed as someone who elevates a situation, not someone who fans the flames and causes chaos and ill-will.

 

Think about how you are seen, but more important think about how you would like to be seen.

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Fuel

Fuel

If someone were to ask you whether you tend to fan the flames or calm the fire, what would you say? I am referring to arguments, discussions, or a difference of opinion.

 

Some people are great at defusing potential fights. Others are great at taking something relatively small and helping or causing it to become WWIII.

When you think about your interpersonal relationships would the people in your life say, “YOU stir things up”? Or would they say, “YOU help calm the situation”?

Your tone of voice. Your physical stance. Your attitude says something about you. Do you talk behind a person’s back? Do you create an atmosphere of hostility? Or are you the one who tries to be a calming presence in those around you?

How well do you know yourself? How would you like others to see you?

I have recently been an unwilling participant in a situation that went from bad to worse. When I reflect on the scenario, I can now see how it was handled, but, more importantly how it could have been handled.

We can all do a better job of taking responsibility of our part when it comes to the work environment, our social encounters, and our personal relationships.

For me, I would like to be viewed as someone who elevates a situation, not someone who fans the flames and causing chaos and ill will.

Think about how you are seen, but more important think about how you would like to be seen.

For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website www.ronikugler.com. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.

Fuel

The Odd Man Out

Several months ago, I started playing a new sport with people I had never met. These people have known each other for most of their adult lives. It had been a long time since I felt like the ‘The Odd Man Out”.

When I first started, my skills were NOT up to theirs. My knowledge of the game was poor and I had a difficult time remembering names. Everyone was patient with me. Everyone said, “You have to start somewhere and we were all beginners at one point.”

I have learned a lot from the 20 or so women who come out twice a week to get some exercise, socialize and play a sport that they love. While there is a wide range of personalities and skills, there is one constant with all the players. Fairness, kindness and acceptance.

I believe we can all learn from the open and accepting attitude they exude. The next time someone new moves into your neighborhood, or there is a new employee at your job, or a new kid enrolls in your school, think about how they must feel. It is not easy to fit into a group that has history. Trying to can be awkward and scary.

We all want to be liked. We all want to feel welcome. How are you doing in this area? Can you do more? We don’t have to like everyone that joins our group. We don’t need to have the same closeness as we do with people we have known a long time. But I believe what we should do is make an effort to make new people feel comfortable and not “The Odd Man Out”.

 

Something to think about.

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The Odd Man Out

A Kinder World

By the time my son was seven, we had lived in two states, four apartments and he had gone to three schools. No wonder he was fearful and unsure the first day at his new school as he entered the second grade.

I did all I could to assure him he would be fine. “Where will I put my lunch pail? Will the teacher remember my name?” The Saturday before school started, we drove to the school and walked around so he would be familiar with it. I assured him that he would be fine.

When he started school that first Monday, he was concerned. I, on the other hand, was a wreck. I worried all day long about how he was doing.

When he finally came home all smiles and relaxed, I asked, “How did your day go?” With much animation he said, “This boy named Steven Bryant came up to me at recess and said, ‘I know being the new kid isn’t easy; I’ll be your friend.’” I am not sure if the tears welled up enough for Ryan to see; however, I could feel them.

I found out where Steven Bryant lived and on Saturday I went over with Ryan to thank him for being such a kind boy. I then thanked his folks for raising this sweet, sensitive boy. Ryan and Steven remained friends through high school.

It doesn’t take much to ease someone else’s fears. One doesn’t need to be on a stage or pulpit to make a difference in someone else’s life. I really do believe if we teach our children to be kind through our words and more importantly, our deeds, we will find ourselves living in a kinder, gentler world.

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Be kind to others. Be kind to yourself.

A Kinder World