tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11148823444770345412024-03-05T17:32:49.651-08:00Isn't it IRONIK?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.comBlogger153125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-75808166067663407992015-06-11T15:55:00.001-07:002015-06-11T15:55:35.642-07:00How Can I be a Better Person?<p>In the 1997 movie <em>As Good as it Gets</em>, Jack Nicholson’s character tells his ladylove, “You make me want to be a better person”. While this might seem corny 18 years later, there is much to think about here.</p><br/><p>We all have people in our lives that elevate our behavior. These people take the high road; they show patience and compassion, which we view with awe. Being around them just ups our game. Their kind of energy and behavior is a very positive influence on our lives.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Mighty-Mouse.jpg'><img height='249' width='276' alt='Mighty Mouse' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Mighty-Mouse.jpg' class='alignnone size-full wp-image-894'/></a></p><br/><p> </p><br/><p>And then there are the people in our circle that we can truly say, “I don’t like me when I am with you”. In a recent conversation with good friends this very topic came up. I actually broached the subject when I found myself reacting to someone else’s rage by disregarding my ‘good judgment’ and saying things I later regretted. Not that these things didn’t need to be said, but it was the manner in which I expressed myself that I regret.</p><br/><p>I take full responsibility for what comes out of my mouth and what flies off the pages. However, it is not lost on me that we all have those people in our lives who can ‘push our buttons’ like no others can.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Frog-with-Large-Mouth.jpg'><img height='345' width='615' alt='Frog with Large Mouth' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Frog-with-Large-Mouth-1024x576.jpg' class='alignnone size-large wp-image-895'/></a></p><br/><p>There are many articles written (mine included) that give sage advice on how to avoid going down the verbal lane that leaves behind many wounded, including ourselves. Some of the most common bits of wisdom are:</p><br/><ul><li>Take a time out</li><br/><li>Don’t use the argument as an excuse to dump years of anger</li><br/><li>Give the other person the chance to talk</li><br/><li>Address only the issues</li><br/><li>Don’t yell or talk in anger</li><br/><li>Agree to disagree</li><br/></ul><p>The truth of the matter is that sometimes these rules just don’t work. Sometimes we have to make difficult choices. Some relationships are simply toxic. And although there can be much sadness in the loss of a friendship, there often is a defining moment when it is VERY clear that changes need to be made. Not every friendship is meant to last a lifetime. When we stop being nice to one another or when we take that person for granted or when we feel there is more anxiety than happiness, perhaps it is time to close this chapter. This is never easy to do, for we often spend endless hours thinking about the good times. We often drag out pictures of silliness and laughter we had once enjoyed. We do this at the same time we question whether we truly want to permanently end all contact. But in the end, it is in our best interest to use sound judgment and if need be, give ourselves permission to move on.</p><br/><p>During our lifetime we teach others how to treat us by what we <strong>expect</strong> and what we ultimately <strong>accept</strong>. My personal gauge: I am close to people when I feel ‘good about me’ being in their company. These people don’t demand, they ask. They appreciate, they do NOT keep score.</p><br/><p>Each one of us should have our own personal list of what is a deal breaker in our relationships. Spending time with positive people can make us want to be a better person by being around them.</p><br/><p>Don’t you agree?</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/how-can-i-be-a-better-person/'>How Can I be a Better Person?</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-27683563349274789742015-04-11T09:22:00.001-07:002015-04-11T09:22:06.089-07:00How Do I Believe in Myself?<p>I grew up in an era where we believed what teachers told us, we were taught to never question a police officer and if a man of the cloth preached a sermon it was indeed the truth.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Authority.jpg'><img height='179' width='282' alt='Authority' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Authority.jpg' class='alignnone size-full wp-image-888'/></a></p><br/><p>We are decades away from my upbringing. Young and old have joined together to become a generation of people who question authority. To take it one step further, we have become a cynical society when it comes to those who are in charge.</p><br/><p>So, why is it that when it comes to our own friends, partners and neighbors, we take what they have to say about us to heart? Why are we not rejecting or at the very least questioning their truth over our own?</p><br/><p>I suppose one reason can be that we all want to be accepted and liked. Most of us come into relationships with own insecurities and fears. Because of this, people who seem stronger, wiser and more confident can cause us to question our own good judgment.</p><br/><p>I have learned over the past several years that my instincts are good. I have learned also that am capable of identifying red flags and knowing what is right and wrong for me. I have also learned that I am adept at trashing my logic and what I believe is in my own best interest, to go ahead anyway and make wrong decisions.</p><br/><p>Why, you ask? I would have to say it is because I am human. I believe that most of us want to believe what we are told. Most of us want to believe that people have good intentions. And, like me, so many of us gather all the facts, think through the situation and then with eyes wide open, we often make incorrect decisions.</p><br/><p>I am pretty sure that the universe intends for us to have these experiences and then learn from them. Whether it is a kid on a bicycle who falls, a business that fails or a marriage that ends in divorce, life presents many opportunities. Are you someone who is capable of learning what life has to teach us?</p><br/><p>I saw a sign the other day that said, “The secret to a rich life is to have more beginnings than endings.” This is now my new motto.</p><br/><p>So, my advice to you is; don’t be afraid to dust yourself off, believe in yourself and start over. Give it some thought!</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/NEVERGIVEUP.jpg'><img height='576' width='576' alt='NEVERGIVEUP' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/NEVERGIVEUP.jpg' class='alignnone size-full wp-image-505'/></a></p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/><p> </p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/how-do-i-believe-in-myself/'>How Do I Believe in Myself?</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-83321794300225532832015-03-03T15:57:00.001-08:002015-03-03T15:57:51.064-08:00Riding The Rails of Life<p>I am at an age where my friends and I are talking about our aches and pains, retirement and the ‘third-act’. Yes, some of us are in the 7<sup>th</sup> and 8<sup>th </sup>inning.</p><br/><p>While most of my friends are dealing with non-life threatening issues at this point, one isn’t. She has recently been told that she has a couple of health related illnesses that are in fact, life threatening.</p><br/><p>About three months ago I had hand surgery that has caused me much pain and limitations (my dominant hand). Not only have I had to depend on my loved ones for simple tasks, and call on my patience (one of my biggest challenges), I have also questioned whether I even wanted to continue to write and publish my book.</p><br/><p>After reading a very personal and very self-reflective letter from my friend this morning, I am writing for the first time in three months. Her very wise words cannot be ignored.</p><br/><p>Many of us spend time reminiscing about the past, living in the present and dreaming and fantasizing about the future. She is very much only in the present.</p><br/><p>Her analogy is about a train we are born on. People get on and off throughout our lives. The ride brings us joy, sorrow, expectations, hellos, goodbyes and farewells. She goes on to say that because we don’t know when it will be our turn to get off this train and leave our seat empty, the best we can do is make beautiful memories, reap success and love, and let yourself be loved.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/riding-a-train.jpg'><img height='307' width='615' alt='riding a train' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/riding-a-train-1024x512.jpg' class='alignnone size-large wp-image-879'/></a></p><br/><p>She went on to end with most importantly thanking God for the journey. And her final words were to thank me for being a passenger on her train.</p><br/><p>I have always wondered what I would say and do when I face the 9<sup>th</sup> inning of my life. I would like to think that I will face it with grace and dignity. My friend has now set my bar even higher. While taking care of herself, she is also taking care of the important people in her life. A very loving and unselfish thing to do. I am in awe and very inspired by her to make my time meaningful, elevate those around me and make the most of my journey. This is a wake-up call to me.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/Slide2.png'><img height='639' width='639' alt='Slide2' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/Slide2.png' class='alignnone size-full wp-image-569'/></a></p><br/><p>Be good to others, be good to yourself.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/riding-the-rails-of-life/'>Riding The Rails of Life</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-19484595462255983722014-12-15T19:50:00.001-08:002014-12-15T19:50:45.854-08:00Slow Down<p>“Slow down and appreciate what’s good in your life.” These are the final words that Brittany Maynard said to the reporter from People Magazine. The article was about her decision to end her life due to her having incurable cancer.</p><br/><p>Wise words from a 29 year old. This didn’t become her philosophy when she found out she was sick. This was her lifestyle her entire life. She lived each and every day to the fullest. She probably did more in her short years on this earth then many do who live a much longer time.</p><br/><p>When you think about your own life, how are you doing in this area? The area that addresses getting the most out of all you do.</p><br/><p>Someone told me when I was very young that unless you are really ‘present’, the experiences you have aren’t fully experienced. Being young, this was lost on me. NOT ANY MORE!</p><br/><p>I really try to pay attention to my surroundings. I try to be aware and observant of the sounds, the smells and the joys around me. I tend to see positive, not negative things. I tend to find as many blessings that can be found.</p><br/><p>I have been called a Pollyanna, or someone whose head is in the sand. However, that doesn’t bother me. I know the world can be a scary place. I understand that bad things happen to good people.</p><br/><p>I am NOT unaware of evil, nor am I so naive that I think everyone has good intentions. What I am, though, is someone who chooses NOT to have that interfere with or ruin my life. And, since I am a relatively happy person who is relatively well-adjusted and living a satisfying life, I honestly am good with my views.</p><br/><p>When you look at your own life. When you think about your ‘happy and appreciation factor’, how are you doing?</p><br/><p>Perhaps you might benefit from Brittany’s wisdom: “Slow down and appreciate what’s good in your life.” That is, while you can.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Slow-Down-pox.jpg'><img height='122' width='300' alt='Slow Down - pox' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Slow-Down-pox-300x122.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-831'/></a></p><br/><p>Rest in peace Brittany. You left this world a little bit better. Thank you.</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/><p> </p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/slow-down/'>Slow Down</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-963856014367104982014-12-06T11:33:00.001-08:002014-12-06T11:33:56.030-08:00Thank You<p>A very good friend and I spent a little time this week texting our appreciation of each other. Nothing too long or too involved. We simply wrote how lucky we both felt to have each other as a friend. We made mention of the fact that we have been there for each other during challenges as well as celebrations.</p><br/><p>It felt good at the time, but what surprises me is that it stayed with me for many days. I see all the time, various FB acknowledgements of appreciations and blessings regarding family and friends. Most of them are generic. More often than not, the person posting will say, “And you know who you are.”</p><br/><p>So, this got me thinking. How are you doing in the personal compliment department? A phone call, a text, an email, or better yet, an in-person chat. When was the last time you thanked an individual for supporting you, or giving you a shoulder to cry on?</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Old-Fashioned-Phone.jpg'><img height='200' width='300' alt='Old-Fashioned-Phone' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Old-Fashioned-Phone-300x200.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-836'/></a></p><br/><p>I believe most of us don’t take enough time to let the people in our lives really know how much we value them. And, if I am wrong and you are someone who does share your gratitude with your loved ones, pat yourself on the back.</p><br/><p>A mass email or FB post is nice, however a message sent directly to an individual who has made a positive difference in your life has much more meaning and value to that person.</p><br/><p>Try it. What you will most likely find out is that it will make that person’s day as well as your own. I know it made my day.</p><br/><p>What are your thoughts?</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/thank-you/'>Thank You</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-9864155540200954502014-11-24T21:06:00.001-08:002014-11-24T21:06:39.258-08:00Being Authentic<p>This is a subject that I am almost obsessed with. What exactly does it mean? For me, it means acting on the outside how I feel on the inside. Or, one could say, being true to myself.</p><br/><p>When I was just 14 and getting ready to go on my first ‘real’ date, a family friend gave me advice that stays with me decades later.</p><br/><p>We were sitting in my backyard and I looked troubled. He asked me what was bothering me. I told him I was going on my first date with a boy I liked and I wasn’t sure how to act and how to be.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/dating.jpg'><img height='200' width='300' alt='dating' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/dating-300x200.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-839'/></a></p><br/><p>He simply said, “Be yourself. If you stay true to who you are, you will not have to worry about who you tried to be or who you tried to act like.” I took his advice. Then and since.</p><br/><p>It was never my goal to have everyone like me. I never changed my behavior to please someone else. I understood that some people would want to be my friend because of my humor, personality and values, and some would not, for the very same reasons.</p><br/><p>I think too many people worry about being liked. I think too many people tell others not what they feel, but what they think they should say.</p><br/><p>I believe we are all special in many ways. We have different talents, different opinions and different ways of doing things.</p><br/><p>Perhaps if we could learn to celebrate our differences instead of trying to be like everyone else, we would be more comfortable. After all, it is our differences that makes the world a more interesting place. Being authentic means being real.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/ball1.jpg'><img height='270' width='300' alt='ball1' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/ball1-300x270.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-840'/></a></p><br/><p>My dad’s friend Bernie died many decades ago, yet to this day his advice to my teenage self gave me a lifetime lesson that has served me well.</p><br/><p>Hopefully his advice will be something that has value to you, also.</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/being-authentic/'>Being Authentic</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-19547389030759215762014-11-16T21:34:00.001-08:002014-11-16T21:34:59.404-08:00Perception<p>This is a very interesting subject to me. We all hear about studies that are done regarding witnesses to an accident. If there were five eyewitnesses, there would be five different accounts of what happened.</p><br/><p>I believe the reason for this is because we tend to bring so much to a situation. Pre-conceived ideas, past experiences, our own view of what is short or tall, slender or heavy. And, to top all that off, many of us make conclusions before hearing or seeing all of the facts.</p><br/><p>It is no wonder that relationships become strained from communication issues. Many of us tend to hear what we want, that is of course, other than our own tone and judgment, and many times we are forming our defense and rebuttal long before the other person has explained themselves.</p><br/><p>Why is this? Are we so anxious to “set the record straight”? Are we so impatient to be heard because we think we won’t remember the point we wanted to make?</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/hand-to-ear-listening.jpg'><img height='199' width='300' alt='hand-to-ear-listening' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/hand-to-ear-listening-300x199.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-826'/></a></p><br/><p>I suppose there are many reasons. However, I believe most of us can do a much better job of being a better listener. Just because someone has an opinion and states it, doesn’t make it a fact. And, we really aren’t obligated to answer or defend anything we don’t want to.</p><br/><p>My feeling is there would be less arguing and bad feelings if we spent more time working on ourselves and less time pointing out other people’s faults.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/wagging-finger-2.jpg'><img height='300' width='235' alt='wagging-finger-2' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/wagging-finger-2-235x300.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-827'/></a></p><br/><p>My feeling also is we might just get some insight into how we are seen by others if we tend to get the same kinds of feedback from many different sources.</p><br/><p>So, what does this have to do with the eyewitnesses to an accident? Just that we are human, and our memories are convenient. Even so, we might learn and grow if we open ourselves up to the possibility that there is actually another viewpoint other than our own.</p><br/><p>Do you agree?</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/perception/'>Perception</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-86229877889792204972014-11-11T07:41:00.001-08:002014-11-11T07:41:32.023-08:00Your Younger You!<p>I found an interesting article in People Magazine this week where various movie stars and other famous people were asked what advice they would give their ‘younger’ self.</p><br/><p>I found this interesting because most all of the people interviewed said, “Enjoy wherever you are in life, learn from your mistakes and don’t take yourself or what others say so seriously.”</p><br/><p>I cannot stress enough about this journey called life. And it doesn’t really matter what age you are or where you are in your life. It will provide you with highs and lows. It will offer you chances and then take them away, and it will give you reason to laugh and to cry. You will, if you are lucky, feel and love so deeply that the loss and hurt will be painful.</p><br/><p>Life should NOT be walked through; it should be approached with gusto, loud laughter and big old crocodile tears. Whatever age you are, take chances, open your heart, open your mind.</p><br/><p>Look at your life as a gift. Treasure that gift. Always learn, always be kind, and always elevate those around you. Be the positive force in someone else’s life, but more importantly, be the positive force in your own life.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/baby_opening_gift_box_H.jpg'><img height='199' width='300' alt='baby_opening_gift_box_H' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/baby_opening_gift_box_H-300x199.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-821'/></a></p><br/><p>Don’t wait until you are in a nursing home or not mobile, to think of all the things you wanted to do and didn’t. Get up everyday and, as they say, “Take it on”!</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Your-younger-you.jpg'><img height='200' width='300' alt='Your younger you!' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Your-younger-you-300x200.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-822'/></a></p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/><p> </p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/your-younger-you/'>Your Younger You!</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-16404194425646512932014-11-07T15:16:00.001-08:002014-11-07T15:16:24.730-08:00My Plate<p>If I were to compare my ‘stress plate’ with a ‘turkey plate’, I can only describe it as over-stuffed.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Thanksgiving-Dinner.jpg'><img height='198' width='300' alt='Thanksgiving-Dinner' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Thanksgiving-Dinner-300x198.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-816'/></a></p><br/><p>As I write this, my 12-year-old Beagle is having leg surgery. I myself will be having hand surgery in 3 weeks. Next weekend is our family reunion, which is out-of-town (yes, along with joy and fun there is ALWAYS stress when everyone gets together), plus the normal challenges that life presents us with.</p><br/><p>While driving Roxie to the vet this morning, I was VERY aware of my heart beating a bit faster and my anxiety level starting to become uncomfortable. Just before I ‘allowed’ myself to become fully overwhelmed (still working on this challenge), I noticed the car in front of me with the license plate that said ‘Kope Grl’. Before I could fully appreciate the irony, it dawned on me that the song on my play list was from Frozen – “Let it Go”.</p><br/><p>It amazed me how quickly I began to calm down as my thoughts changed to the following: “In a few days Roxie will be better.” By the beginning of the year, my hand will be much better, and lastly, along with the stress of all of us getting together (which restaurant do we go to, or will it be a movie or walk downtown), will come laughter, fun and the love that only families can provide.</p><br/><p>The truth is that life is a mixture of calm and stress. It provides us with ups and downs, and as the saying goes, “You can’t get a rainbow without getting rain.”</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/rainbow-wall-sky-rainbow.jpg'><img height='192' width='300' alt='rainbow-wall-sky-rainbow' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/rainbow-wall-sky-rainbow-300x192.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-815'/></a></p><br/><p>So, the next time you find yourself letting your ‘stress plate’ get overloaded, try to use your internal tools, i.e., deep breathing, counting to 10, and acknowledge that time has a way of will healing what ails us. These things will help to stop you from becoming immobilized and help you to cope with the stress that comes with living.</p><br/><p>Agree?</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/><p> </p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/my-plate/'>My Plate</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-55641022484565579392014-10-28T20:23:00.001-07:002014-10-28T20:23:47.158-07:00Bucket List<p>This has become a common phrase. A person makes a list of all the things they want to do ‘before they kick the bucket’. Problem is, we NEVER know when our time will come. There is a 29 year old young lady who is terminally ill, and has made a decision to end her life in the near future.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p>She doesn’t really talk about dying; she spends her time talking about living. AND, along with her family, she is spending her remaining time doing the things she loves and making memories with the people she loves.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p>Most of us get up, have our routine, go about our day and eventually climb into bed at night without really giving much thought to our surroundings, whether it is the smells, the sounds and/or the feel of the air. We are living a life, BUT are we really LIVING our lives?</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p>Perhaps because of my age, I am more aware of time and how precious it is. I am about to hit yet another milestone. AND, as a good friend likes to say, “It beats the alternative.” And I absolutely agree.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p>How about we make a pact? How about the next time you take a walk, or are in the car, or you hear a baby laugh or see a dog wag its tail, you stop in your tracks (ok, not in the car), and you take in ALL the senses and you really become aware of the moment? It is what I plan to do.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p>Today is NOT like any other, and you will never have it again. If you choose to be a couch potato for the day, do it guilt-free. If you play a sport, give it all you have. If you are reading a good book or sharing coffee with a friend, be in the moment. NOT ON YOUR ELECTRONIC DEVICE!</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p>Don’t be someone who near the end of their life has more on their bucket list than days they have left. A bucket list doesn’t have to have activities like climbing the Himalayas, ski diving, or swimming with the dolphins, although it can.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/skydive-ohio.jpg'><img height='200' width='300' alt='skydive-ohio' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/skydive-ohio-300x200.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-809'/></a></p><br/><p>It can include spending a quality day with your grandchildren. Helping a neighbor with a garage sale, or taking an art class that you always wanted to. Whether your ‘bucket list’ is comprised of bigger than life activities, or smaller ones that have meaning for you, remember what is really important is that you are doing things that fill your heart, give you joy and make your journey one worth taking.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/day-with-your-grandchildren.jpg'><img height='300' width='300' alt='day with your grandchildren' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/day-with-your-grandchildren-300x300.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-810'/></a></p><br/><p> </p><br/><p>Please share your thoughts.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/><p> </p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/bucket-list/'>Bucket List</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-90100632441734951902014-10-23T17:27:00.001-07:002014-10-23T17:27:08.820-07:00Are we there yet?<p>Anyone who has taken a road trip, as a youngster is familiar with this common cry, “Are we there yet?” It doesn’t seem to matter if you are on the road for 10 minutes or 10 hours.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/on-the-road-again.jpg'><img height='225' width='300' alt='on-the-road-again' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/on-the-road-again-300x225.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-802'/></a></p><br/><p>My observation is that most of us live our lives waiting for the workday to end, the week to become a weekend, or months to go by so we can take a week or two and go on vacation.</p><br/><p>We plan the next holiday before we are finished with the one we are enjoying. Then the common cry becomes, “Where has the time gone?”</p><br/><p>We realize that our lives are also lived in-between special events and time off. In fact, there are many more hours spent during these normal, uneventful times. So why aren’t we maximizing and appreciating them more?</p><br/><p>I believe it is because we don’t take the time to really find the good in them. I am willing to bet that most days, most of us experience something fun, funny or interesting. However, instead of stopping and taking them in, we just cruise on by and not give them much thought.</p><br/><p>Each and every day is special. Each and every day is not like any other. Take the time to stop and soak in the moment. Don’t just walk through your life, feel your life. Don’t take what you have for granted, appreciate what you have.</p><br/><p>Happiness is truly a state of mind. I remember a particular day spent with my grandson when he was just three. We were at a park running on the grass, falling down and laughing. He stopped, looked straight at me and said, “Grandma, this is a wonderful day.”</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/toddler-swing-28489381.jpg'><img height='300' width='235' alt='?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/toddler-swing-28489381-235x300.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-803'/></a></p><br/><p>From the mouths of babes. Try and make as many days as you can wonderful ones. You really don’t need to be on a cruise or vacation to laugh, be happy or feel fulfilled.</p><br/><p>The question shouldn’t be, “Are we there yet?” Because wherever we are, and no matter what we are doing, in reality we are already there.</p><br/><p>Life is a journey. It starts when you are born and it should end when you die, and not one day before.</p><br/><p>Opinions?</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/are-we-there-yet/'>Are we there yet?</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-31378689329347945282014-10-18T07:50:00.001-07:002014-10-18T07:50:40.371-07:00Lighten Up<p>These words stay in my mind. I wrote a blog last week and one of the comments I received was, ‘lighten up’. Of all the comments I have heard over the past two years, this one made me really smile.</p><br/><p>Perhaps many of us are guilty of taking life too seriously. Perhaps we spend more time making mountains out of molehills. Now, I get that many deal with real challenges. Life and death situations.</p><br/><p>However, more often than not, too many of us manage to take the smallest of things and stress and over obsess about them.</p><br/><p>Here are some personal examples. When running late to work I would go over in my mind all the excuses I would give. I would then play the part of my boss and think of what I would say when he confronted me at the door. I believe in a career that spanned 30 years, I NEVER had to use any of my lame excuses, and I WAS NEVER confronted at the door by a boss with arms folded and a stern look. I did however, start out the day stressed and worried.</p><br/><p>I have worried about African Bees, Lyme disease, drive-by shootings, various epidemics (yes, Ebola comes to mind), and many other small and large catastrophes that are out there.</p><br/><p>It seems so human to spend time worrying. And for most of us, we will live to a ripe old age having managed to miss most of the things that are our worst fears.</p><br/><p>So, why do we do this? Why do we make ourselves sick with worry over getting hit by lightening? I don’t have the answer because there isn’t just one answer.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Lighting-Up-the-Sky.jpg'><img height='174' width='289' alt='Lighting Up the Sky' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Lighting-Up-the-Sky.jpg' class='alignnone size-full wp-image-797'/></a></p><br/><p>So I have decided for now, this very day, I shall take the sage advice given to me last week and I will let my mantra be to just ‘lighten up’. I will save my energy for when I am actually faced with a challenge, so that I am able to deal with it and NOT be drained from worrying about something that has not happened and probably won’t.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Sage-Advice.jpg'><img height='179' width='300' alt='Sage Advice' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Sage-Advice-300x179.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-798'/></a></p><br/><p>What do you think?</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/lighten-up/'>Lighten Up</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-10031247021481536512014-10-10T18:53:00.001-07:002014-10-10T18:53:26.572-07:00Welcome to my Blog Site!<p>Thank you for joining me here! Please enter your name and email address so we can connect and stay in touch.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/welcome-to-my-blog-site/'>Welcome to my Blog Site!</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-88423208561426473462014-10-10T18:40:00.001-07:002014-10-10T18:40:52.730-07:00Welcome to my Blog!<div class='wp-video' style='width: 615px; height: 346px; ;'><video controls='controls' preload='metadata' height='346' width='615' id='video-0-3' class='wp-video-shortcode'><source src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/RoniWebsiteIntro-FInal.mp4?_=3' type='video/mp4'/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/RoniWebsiteIntro-FInal.mp4'>http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/RoniWebsiteIntro-FInal.mp4</a></video></div><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/welcome-to-my-blog/'>Welcome to my Blog!</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-8761965708295251312014-10-09T11:33:00.001-07:002014-10-09T11:33:48.688-07:00Garage Sales<p>Sometimes while I am driving the neighborhood or walking my dogs, I see various homes where the people are having garage sales. We all see them. The homeowners put on their lawn old kitchen gadgets, out-grown toys, clothes that no longer fit and a variety of things that seemed like a good idea when they bought them (does an exercise item come to mind)?</p><br/><p>The day (hopefully) is filled with customers who grab up discarded books, gardening sheers and old cookie jars, all the while looking for a bargain. Now, I image all these customers have their own worn-out, out-of-date items that they would like to display on their front lawn also.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Garage-Sale.jpg'><img height='194' width='259' alt='Garage Sale' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Garage-Sale.jpg' class='alignnone size-full wp-image-786'/></a></p><br/><p>Why is it that someone else’s ‘junk’ tends to look more appealing than our own? Why is it that the very things we would toss out are the very things we envy when someone else has them?</p><br/><p>Does your neighbor’s life seem better than yours? Do their kids seem nicer? Does their grass look greener? Did it seem like they got a better deal on their car than you did?</p><br/><p>Instead of peeking over the fence with envy and wanting what someone else has, how about feeling grateful and blessed for what you have?</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Little-Girl-Looking-over-Fence.png'><img height='201' width='300' alt='Little-Girl-Looking-over-Fence' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Little-Girl-Looking-over-Fence-300x201.png' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-784'/></a></p><br/><p>Life shouldn’t be a race or a competition. Life should be about being happy, enjoying your journey and hopefully appreciating what you do have.</p><br/><p>There’s always someone with more, and there’s always someone with less. So next time you look at someone else’s fortune, stop and think that there is someone out there looking at yours.</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/garage-sales-2/'>Garage Sales</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-31542659655909443432014-10-02T12:51:00.001-07:002014-10-02T12:51:42.779-07:00Bravery<p>We all have our fears. Things we dread. Me? Shots, needles or anything else that pokes my skin. Today I am having a relatively small procedure, which entails a shot. I am not looking forward to 10:45 this morning.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/child-shots.jpg'><img height='300' width='280' alt='child shots' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/child-shots-280x300.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-779'/></a></p><br/><p>After reading an article regarding Joan Lunden, who is dealing with breast cancer, and my spending some time thinking about family members and their health challenges, I have to admit, I am VERY fortunate.</p><br/><p>My daughter-in-law has on many occasions mentioned to my grandson (when facing a needle), that ‘bravery’ is doing something you have to, even if you are scared. This doesn’t change my concerns and fears; it does however, give me something to think about.</p><br/><p>We all face our fears and demons at some point in our lives. And it is okay to be scared. And it is okay to show your vulnerability. This doesn’t make you weak or a bad person. It actually makes you human.</p><br/><p>Even though others might have a more difficult journey. Or perhaps you are the one with a difficult journey. Don’t minimize what you have to deal with. Keep it in perspective. Feel your feelings. Lean on those you trust.</p><br/><p>A very close friend reminds me when I complain about my aches and pains and then qualify it with, “I know others have it worse”, that this does NOT diminish what I am going through.</p><br/><p>So, I will put on my ‘big girl panties’, accept a warm hug and a ‘hand-hold’ and face THE NEEDLE while remembering that what I have is curable and for this I am fortunate and blessed.</p><br/><p>What are your fears? How do you handle them? I would love to hear from you.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Stills-cowardly-lion-of-oz-19567407-1565-2000.jpg'><img height='300' width='234' alt='Stills-cowardly-lion-of-oz-19567407-1565-2000' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Stills-cowardly-lion-of-oz-19567407-1565-2000-234x300.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-778'/></a></p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/bravery/'>Bravery</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-18948389021612487242014-09-30T17:49:00.001-07:002014-09-30T17:49:03.849-07:00My Website Video<p>Hi, I’m Roni Kugler and I’d like to welcome you to my Website. In the past two years I have written hundreds of blogs and many motivational videos dealing with everything we humans have to go through. Hundreds of thousands of readers are finding my words to be extremely helpful to them as they move through their lives. I hope you feel the same way. I look forward to seeing your comments and your questions. And please don’t forget to visit my YouTube Channel and subscribe to there and visit my Facebook Page to follow the conversation at https://www.facebook.com/pages/Roni-Kugler/299618560165450. Here you will find a form, on the left side of the page, where you can fill in your name and email address so that we can stay connected. Thank you.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/my-website-video/'>My Website Video</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-47293572677387338662014-09-20T08:17:00.001-07:002014-09-20T08:17:11.458-07:00Fuel<p>If someone were to ask you whether you tend to fan the flames or calm the fire, what would you say? I am referring to arguments, discussions, or a difference of opinion.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/fanning-flames.png'><img height='217' width='300' alt='fanning-flames' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/fanning-flames-300x217.png' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-768'/></a></p><br/><p>Some people are great at defusing potential fights. Others are great at taking something relatively small and helping or causing it to become WWIII.</p><br/><p>When you think about your interpersonal relationships, would the people in your life say, “YOU stir things up”? Or would they say, “YOU help calm the situation”?</p><br/><p>Your tone of voice. Your physical stance. Your attitude says something about you. Do you talk behind a person’s back? Do you create an atmosphere of hostility? Or are you the one who tries to be a calming presence to those around you?</p><br/><p>How well do you know yourself? How would you like others to see you?</p><br/><p>I have recently been an unwilling participant in a situation that went from bad to worse. When I reflect on the scenario, I can now see how it was handled, but more importantly, how it could have been handled.</p><br/><p>We can all do a better job of taking responsibility for our part when it comes to the work environment, our social encounters, and our personal relationships.</p><br/><p>For me, I would like to be viewed as someone who elevates a situation, not someone who fans the flames and causes chaos and ill-will.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/two-kids-handshake.jpg'><img height='200' width='300' alt='two kids handshake' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/two-kids-handshake-300x200.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-770'/></a></p><br/><p> </p><br/><p>Think about how you are seen, but more important think about how you would like to be seen.</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/fuel/'>Fuel</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-7802120088410419222014-09-19T15:19:00.001-07:002014-09-19T15:19:07.734-07:00Fuel<p>If someone were to ask you whether you tend to fan the flames or calm the fire, what would you say? I am referring to arguments, discussions, or a difference of opinion.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/Fanning-a-flame.jpg'><img height='219' width='231' alt='Fanning a flame' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/Fanning-a-flame.jpg' class='alignnone size-full wp-image-763'/></a></p><br/><p>Some people are great at defusing potential fights. Others are great at taking something relatively small and helping or causing it to become WWIII.</p><br/><p>When you think about your interpersonal relationships would the people in your life say, “YOU stir things up”? Or would they say, “YOU help calm the situation”?</p><br/><p>Your tone of voice. Your physical stance. Your attitude says something about you. Do you talk behind a person’s back? Do you create an atmosphere of hostility? Or are you the one who tries to be a calming presence in those around you?</p><br/><p>How well do you know yourself? How would you like others to see you?</p><br/><p>I have recently been an unwilling participant in a situation that went from bad to worse. When I reflect on the scenario, I can now see how it was handled, but, more importantly how it could have been handled.</p><br/><p>We can all do a better job of taking responsibility of our part when it comes to the work environment, our social encounters, and our personal relationships.</p><br/><p>For me, I would like to be viewed as someone who elevates a situation, not someone who fans the flames and causing chaos and ill will.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/Putting-out-a-fire.jpg'><img height='258' width='300' alt='Putting out a fire' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/Putting-out-a-fire-300x258.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-764'/></a></p><br/><p>Think about how you are seen, but more important think about how you would like to be seen.</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/fuel/'>Fuel</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-25330574513676848242014-09-06T16:50:00.001-07:002014-09-06T16:50:41.425-07:00The Odd Man Out<p>Several months ago, I started playing a new sport with people I had never met. These people have known each other for most of their adult lives. It had been a long time since I felt like the ‘The Odd Man Out”.</p><br/><p>When I first started, my skills were NOT up to theirs. My knowledge of the game was poor and I had a difficult time remembering names. Everyone was patient with me. Everyone said, “You have to start somewhere and we were all beginners at one point.”</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/tennis-people.jpg'><img height='199' width='300' alt='tennis people' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/tennis-people-300x199.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-759'/></a></p><br/><p>I have learned a lot from the 20 or so women who come out twice a week to get some exercise, socialize and play a sport that they love. While there is a wide range of personalities and skills, there is one constant with all the players. Fairness, kindness and acceptance.</p><br/><p>I believe we can all learn from the open and accepting attitude they exude. The next time someone new moves into your neighborhood, or there is a new employee at your job, or a new kid enrolls in your school, think about how they must feel. It is not easy to fit into a group that has history. Trying to can be awkward and scary.</p><br/><p>We all want to be liked. We all want to feel welcome. How are you doing in this area? Can you do more? We don’t have to like everyone that joins our group. We don’t need to have the same closeness as we do with people we have known a long time. But I believe what we should do is make an effort to make new people feel comfortable and not “The Odd Man Out”.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/welcoming-people.jpg'><img height='184' width='300' alt='welcoming-people' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/welcoming-people-300x184.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-758'/></a></p><br/><p> </p><br/><p>Something to think about.</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/the-odd-man-out/'>The Odd Man Out</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-46822318526554469662014-09-02T19:53:00.001-07:002014-09-02T19:53:17.334-07:00A Kinder World<p>By the time my son was seven, we had lived in two states, four apartments and he had gone to three schools. No wonder he was fearful and unsure the first day at his new school as he entered the second grade.</p><br/><p>I did all I could to assure him he would be fine. “Where will I put my lunch pail? Will the teacher remember my name?” The Saturday before school started, we drove to the school and walked around so he would be familiar with it. I assured him that he would be fine.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/fear.jpg'><img height='241' width='300' alt='fear' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/fear-300x241.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-744'/></a></p><br/><p>When he started school that first Monday, he was concerned. I, on the other hand, was a wreck. I worried all day long about how he was doing.</p><br/><p>When he finally came home all smiles and relaxed, I asked, “How did your day go?” With much animation he said, “This boy named Steven Bryant came up to me at recess and said, ‘I know being the new kid isn’t easy; I’ll be your friend.’” I am not sure if the tears welled up enough for Ryan to see; however, I could feel them.</p><br/><p>I found out where Steven Bryant lived and on Saturday I went over with Ryan to thank him for being such a kind boy. I then thanked his folks for raising this sweet, sensitive boy. Ryan and Steven remained friends through high school.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/two_young_boys_playing_LV0079001d.jpg'><img height='300' width='290' alt='??????????????????????' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/two_young_boys_playing_LV0079001d-290x300.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-743'/></a></p><br/><p>It doesn’t take much to ease someone else’s fears. One doesn’t need to be on a stage or pulpit to make a difference in someone else’s life. I really do believe if we teach our children to be kind through our words and more importantly, our deeds, we will find ourselves living in a kinder, gentler world.</p><br/><p>For more inspirational thoughts and videos, please sign up at my website <a href='http://www.ronikugler.com'>www.ronikugler.com</a>. If you find value in my articles, please share them with your friends and family. I welcome all comments.</p><br/><p>Be kind to others. Be kind to yourself.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/a-kinder-world/'>A Kinder World</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-50876451622320908702014-08-27T18:11:00.001-07:002014-08-27T18:11:08.124-07:00When Life Kicks You in the Ass<div align='center' style='text-align: center;'/><br/><div><span style='font-size: 14pt;'>I am not talking about making lemonade from lemons.</span><span style='font-size: 14pt;'> </span><span style='font-size: 14pt;'>I am not talking about dealing with life’s </span><span style='font-size: 14pt; text-decoration: underline;'>little </span><span style='font-size: 14pt;'>challenges.</span><span style='font-size: 14pt;'> </span><span style='font-size: 14pt;'>I am talking about when life truly hits you with a full-blown-out catastrophe.</span><span style='font-size: 14pt;'> </span></div><br/><div/><br/><div style='clear: both; text-align: center;'><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/images.jpeg' style='margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;'><img alt='' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/images.jpeg'/></a></div><br/><div/><br/><div><span style='font-size: 14.0pt;'>A 24-hour pity party with a box of chocolate won’t help.<span style='mso-spacerun: yes;'> </span>A glass of wine with a friend doesn’t cut it.<span style='mso-spacerun: yes;'> </span>And the sage old advice about life not giving you more than you can handle is pure bunk.</span></div><br/><div/><br/><div><span style='font-size: 14.0pt;'>When the disappointment seems unending.<span style='mso-spacerun: yes;'> </span>When your sadness seems like a life-sentence, when there are no good solutions, how does one go on?</span></div><br/><div/><br/><div><span style='font-size: 14.0pt;'>When it come to mistakes we’ve made, unfairness or the many injustices <span style='mso-spacerun: yes;'> </span>others have done to us, it really only hurts us if we obsess about it.<span style='mso-spacerun: yes;'> </span>Fostering hurts and wounds only keeps them alive for us.<span style='mso-spacerun: yes;'> </span>The other guy has moved on and more likely than not is not affected by his or her actions.</span></div><br/><div/><br/><div><span style='font-size: 14.0pt;'>Whether you were over looked for promotions.<span style='mso-spacerun: yes;'> </span>Whether a fire or other natural disaster took your possessions, whether you experienced a loss of a friend or family member, the reality is life does continue.</span></div><br/><div/><br/><div><span style='font-size: 14.0pt;'>I read and hear about such tremendous challenges people go through.<span style='mso-spacerun: yes;'> </span>I read and hear about where their lives are years later.<span style='mso-spacerun: yes;'> </span>So many are stronger, and although have the physical and emotional scars continue to keep going.<span style='mso-spacerun: yes;'> </span>Yes, some better than others.</span></div><br/><div/><br/><div><span style='font-size: 14.0pt;'>I believe the reality is that most of us will experience situations that will question our faith, question ourselves, cause us to wonder if it really is worth it and have us wonder whether the world wouldn’t be better off without us.</span></div><br/><div/><br/><div><span style='font-size: 14.0pt;'>If this sounds like a familiar story line, one just needs to have seen the Christmas movie called, “It’s a Wonderful Life.”</span></div><br/><div/><br/><div><span style='font-size: 14.0pt;'>I have no answers or solutions.<span style='mso-spacerun: yes;'> </span>I have always felt it is not the trouble we get into that is important; it is how we handle it that speaks of our character and worth.</span></div><br/><div/><br/><div><span style='font-size: 14.0pt;'>So, when life seems to kick you in the ass, whether you helped it or truly are a victim, accept it, own it, look for solutions and move on with your life.<span style='mso-spacerun: yes;'> </span>It is what survivors do.</span></div><br/><div><span style='font-size: 14.0pt;'> </span></div><br/><div style='clear: both; text-align: center;'><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/images-1.jpeg' style='margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;'><img alt='' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/images-1.jpeg'/></a></div><br/><div><span style='font-size: 14.0pt;'> </span></div><br/><div/><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/when-life-kicks-you-in-the-ass/'>When Life Kicks You in the Ass</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-72756420392032580422014-08-26T11:32:00.001-07:002014-08-26T11:32:17.036-07:00Who Will Be There For Me?<p>The other day while walking my dogs. a dog without a leash came bounding across the street. He was big, he was fast and I immediately became concerned. Although he didn’t act or look like a threat, my little dog could have started barking and I found myself concerned that things could get out of control.</p><br/><p>While telling the stray dog to go home, I am the one who did exactly that. I managed to get my two pups back in the house. I then grabbed some dog treats and walked up the street to try and find this dog’s home. Yes, I was uneasy, yes, I was a bit nervous. My biggest fear however, was that this beautiful dog could get hit by a car.</p><br/><p>All turned out well as my friend and I worked together to read “Gypsy’s” tags and locate the owner.</p><br/><p>Before that happened, I approached a lady across the street where it turned out Gypsy lived. The lady was in her car in her driveway. I said, “Hello, I am wondering if you know this dog or it’s owner.” She looked at me while still in her car and said, “No, and I am not a dog person, and it’s not my business.”</p><br/><p>In my mind, I couldn’t help but take her lack of compassion to the next step. If she heard a neighbor lady scream, would she NOT call 911 because it wasn’t her business? How often do we hear about a crowd watching someone being bullied or assaulted and walk away? I understand fear of retaliation or taking a chance that the attacker would turn on you. However, reporting the incident, offering to make a phone call, some gesture of helping someone in need…</p><br/><p>It didn’t take me long to use my imagination and escalate this scenario.</p><br/><p>There are many variations of the following poem. It was written by Martin Niemoller (Jan. 14 1892 – March 6 1984). I immediately thought of it.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/People-in-prison.jpg'><img height='227' width='300' alt='People in prison' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/People-in-prison-300x226.jpg' class='wp-image-726 alignleft'/></a></p><br/><p> </p><br/><p> </p><br/><p> </p><br/><p> </p><br/><p> </p><br/><p> </p><br/><p> </p><br/><p> </p><br/><p>“When the Nazis came for the communists, I did not speak out; as I was not a communist.</p><br/><p>When they locked up the social democrats, I did not speak out; I was not a social democrat.</p><br/><p>When they came for the trade unionists, I did not speak out; I was not a trade unionist.</p><br/><p>When they came for the Jews, I did not speak out; as I was not a Jew.</p><br/><p>When they came for me, there was no one left to speak out.”</p><br/><p>We need to really think about the world we want to live in and the messages and lessons we want to leave our children. After all, history has shown that the future of our world is truly in our hands.</p><br/><p>No matter how big or small the situation is, if <strong>we </strong>aren’t there for each other, who will be?</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Hands-holding-hands.jpg'><img height='199' width='300' alt='Hands holding hands' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Hands-holding-hands-300x199.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-727'/></a></p><br/><p>If you are interested in reading more of my blogs, please sign-up here, on my website, and share your feelings, thoughts and comments. If you think your friends and family would find value in what I write, please pass this along to them.</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/who-will-be-there-for-me/'>Who Will Be There For Me?</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-35635662780896065642014-08-08T16:51:00.001-07:002014-08-08T16:51:32.846-07:00What Defines You?<p>Have you ever thought about what defines you? If you were asked to list out 10 things, what would your list look like? For some, they would start out by describing themselves physically. For others, they would start with their personality traits. For still others, they might put their accomplishments.</p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Pix-Defines-You.jpg'><img height='200' width='200' alt='Pix-Defines You' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Pix-Defines-You.jpg' class='alignnone size-full wp-image-671'/></a></p><br/><p>I wonder how many people would list, “The person I am with.” Me? This would not make my list of 10. Mine would look like the following:</p><br/><ol><li> Reflective</li><br/><li> Open-minded</li><br/><li> Funny (I understand this is still up for debate)</li><br/><li> Caring</li><br/><li> Direct</li><br/><li> Appreciative</li><br/><li> Loving</li><br/><li> Understanding</li><br/><li> Short</li><br/><li> Good Hair</li><br/></ol><p>I met a friend for drinks and a bite to eat yesterday. We have known each other for around 20 years. She is smart, she is attractive, she is a good friend, she is grounded and she is compassionate. Everyone who is close to her can easily see these endearing traits. And yet, and this is a BIG yet, when there is not a good-looking guy in her life, her opinion of herself is pretty much “0”. She acknowledges (I told you she is smart), that her head tells her this is crap. She also admits with much frustration that her heart and her feelings cannot get past this very shallow and superficial view.</p><br/><p>We need to do a better job of teaching our children to love and value themselves. We need to compliment them and instill a strong sense of individuality, so that no matter what their dress size is, or color of hair, or how tall or short they are, they feel valued and loved.</p><br/><p> </p><br/><p><a href='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/A-Group-of-Children.jpg'><img height='199' width='300' alt='A Group of Children' src='http://ronikugler.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/A-Group-of-Children-300x199.jpg' class='alignnone size-medium wp-image-672'/></a></p><br/><p>Until a person can truly love themselves ‘warts and all’, they will always live a life that looks for validation from the next boyfriend or girlfriend. Do not give up your power to another person. You are good enough just the way you are!</p><br/><p>Can you feel my frustration? What do you think?</p><br/> <br/><a href='http://ronikugler.com/what-defines-you/'>What Defines You?</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14442044611228972641noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1114882344477034541.post-74567442202636164742014-08-04T16:24:00.001-07:002014-08-05T16:23:40.249-07:00From The GraveAlthough I know my title seems morbid, it isn’t meant to be. I couldn’t have been more than 10 when my father told me that we keep the generations before us alive by telling and retelling stories to our own children. He said for the most part, a person’s life is forgotten after two generations.<br />
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I was lucky to have three of my four grandparents until my early 30s. My son was 8 when his last great grandparent passed away. My son now has an 11-year-old son. Travis knows my mother, who is 89. He has no idea who my father is or any of my grandparents.<br />
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I am finding this sad and unfortunate. While reading an article today in People Magazine about Bindi Irwin, the daughter of Steve Irwin (The Crocodile Hunter star), I mostly focused on what she said gave her the most amount of comfort through the most difficult of times, regarding the loss of her dad.<br />
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He wrote her many letters. He shared many stories, and he made videos for her and her brother. While he couldn’t have predicted his untimely death, his instinct to share his life with his children is a gift that will give them a piece of their father that they wouldn’t otherwise have. And, this they can also share with their children and grandchildren.<br />
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Next time you give a birthday gift or holiday gift to your children and grandchildren, why not also include a story about you. A story about your childhood. Give them some insight into what your dreams were. What you wanted to do with your life. What kind of kid you were.<br />
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I would give anything if I could sit down for even an hour and ask my grandmother about her life as a child. Our parents and grandparents are always asking about our lives and us. They listen to what we have to share. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we, as adults, could have an opportunity to get to know them, by reading the stories they left us?<br />
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For most it is when we are older and less absorbed in our own lives that tend to reflect and realize just how precious time is. Do you agree?<br />
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