Ever since I can remember, I was told that lying was wrong. I was also told that ‘little white lies’ were okay. The ‘little white lies’ were used to tell someone their hair looked good (when it was beach hair), you liked the couch they just bought (although it was made from the same material that your Great Aunt used for her drapes when you were a little kid).
And, we all understood the importance of telling a relative, “I’m sorry, I have allergies”, when confronted with an awful looking vegetable dish at her house.
Somewhere between using ‘white lies’ to spare feelings, we have adapted them as a way of getting out of social obligations, attending meetings at school, or a number of other things that we don’t want to deal with. Sometimes we just tell them to make ourselves look better.
What is wrong with just telling the truth? If the other person isn’t happy with that, then they aren’t happy with it. However, I am not advocating telling someone how he or she really looks in his or her jeans!
Perhaps if the people we are lying to wouldn’t give us a hard time and make us feel guilty, we wouldn’t feel the need to do this.
What do you think?