I received a call from a longtime
friend of mine. I have known her over 30
years. Our friendship has always been
rocky at best. Our biggest problem stems
from an expectation and then a disappointment.
It is usually over something small that seems to get blown out of
proportion.
“I called you twice, you
called me once. I wrote two paragraphs,
you answered with one word.” The end
result is she tends to feel that I am blowing her off.
How many times do you find
yourself in a situation where someone is saying to you, “But that’s how I 'feel'",
when his or her feelings are hurt, although that wasn’t your intention?, Or perhaps you are the person who feels
slighted?
Friendships, like
relationships, take work. Somewhere
between the giving of the message and the receiving of the message is ‘tone,
intent, and attitude’. Or, more likely,
it is perceived
‘tone, intent, and attitude'.
I am not sure what the answer
is. I am not sure what the solution
is. I suppose the best way to handle any
situation where someone is telling you how they feel is to listen to what they
have to say. Recognize they have a right
to their feelings and then move on.
If you have a better idea,
PLEASE share your thoughts.
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